Why sleeping separately before wedding

Create intimacy through reminiscing about your first meeting, exchanging gifts, and discussing the significance of this time in your lives. Hammond and her team recommend taking some alone time to reflect on these milestones in private.

There are cons, too. You'll miss a lot of laughs with your girlfriends, sharing stories about past relationships that didn't work, and what was going on in your life when you met your future spouse, says Sousa. Although, if you part ways the next morning to get ready , you'll have the chance to spend quality time with your girls while getting pampered.

Spending the night together, as you might do often, will inherently feel special during your destination wedding weekend because you've separated yourselves from your regular lives. Sousa recommends parting ways after breakfast if you'd like to build anticipation before the reveal. Plus, since there's no home base, you're saving money by sharing one room, versus paying for two suites, or having one of you crash with friends or family, which could mean a sleepless night on a pull-out couch.

In this modern day of cohabiting couples and non-virgins, is the not-sleeping-together tradition relative anymore? By sleep I mean, whatever you want to do; be it hitting the hay or having a roll in it.

And for the record nowhere in this two-sided argument will higher-than-thou sexual morality be a legitimate defense for it. Another reason to sleep together is to have that amazing-single-person sex one last time.

In fact, have lots of sex as a way to protest this historically absurd sexual morality tradition and whoever invented it. Spending the evening with your future spouse may leave your loves ones to have a night like these without you.

Spending the night alone, with your parents, or even with your good friends, you may be able to police your bedtime more effectively. Find out how to write a meaningful love letter to your beloved on the big day, read about the best energy boosters for brides, and get inspired by beautiful shots of brides and grooms getting ready for their nuptials! Start your Independent Premium subscription today.

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