Join my newsletter and download your free copy below:. Your email address will not be published. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. The newborn stage is so hard. When I see moms with newborn babies, I always feel like it was so long ago. Being in the NICU was so stressful for me and since they were smaller, I was always worried about them getting sick. This is a great guide.
I was prepared for it though, with the twins, since many twins are born small and premature. Our 8 day old kid is really challenging. I have to say, i actually regret the decision to make a baby. Six months seems so far off…. First, big hugs. Those first few days and weeks with a newborn can be some of the toughest. Talk about a huge lifestyle change. I was also exactly where you are right now.
In my sleep-deprived deliriousness I would yell at my husband and wonder why we even wanted to be parents. I longed for my old life and hated the new one I had.
The baby is latching or feeding better. Little wins. I just want you to know that you can do this! But you will, you definitely will get to do normal things again. Think of it as a season in your life, and like all seasons, they come and go.
It is what it is, and accepting how it is now instead of resisting it will make you feel so much better. Trust that you will once again go back to your hobbies and past times. And better yet, try to find the small pleasures now, even during this crazy time. Laugh about the madness, or use this opportunity to sit back and not do anything for once but cuddle with your baby. My baby was a few weeks old, nursing all the time , and hardly sleeping at all.
Table of Contents. Comments Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Honestly, there is no phase easier than the newborn one unless your baby has colic, in which case, I'm so sorry. With newborns, you have one task and one task only: keep your baby alive.
We make that task more complicated than it needs to be, of course, with debates over bottles vs. But really, it's quite simple. Feed your baby something appropriate; diaper your baby with something that keeps them dry; clothe your baby in something comfortable; put your baby to sleep in something secure. Cuddle her, snuggle her. Keep her safe and make sure she knows she's loved.
In the blink of an eye, she'll grow up some. And you realize that keeping her alive is a lot more challenging once she can climb stairs. And jump off things. And run out into streets. And when she won't eat anything except Goldfish crackers for days on end the pediatrician says she won't starve herself, but you Google, just to be sure. Then she grows up a little more, and you realize that merely keeping her alive isn't enough anymore.
You also have to actually parent her. You have to teach her not to hit when she's angry. You have to teach her to be kind to others and share her toys.
And when this phase happens, it dawns on you: You cannot teach her anything without demonstrating it first. Far from finding our groove, it seemed some of us had hit a new and unexpected low. But, six months later, fewer people ask how you are or visit and the day-to-day reality of being at home with a baby kicks in. And, although you may be getting more sleep than you did in those first few weeks, the previous months will still be taking their toll.
When breastfeeding stops, oxytocin levels — which has an anti-anxiety effect — drop as the hormone is no longer needed for lactation. Many women report feeling uptight and anxious as a result. That was certainly the case with me. Psychotherapist Naomi Stadlen agrees. If you find yourself worrying, channel your thoughts in a constructive way. And try to isolate any specific problems that are getting you down, rather than letting everything roll together and overwhelm you.
Most importantly, rather than beating yourself up about not being totally on top of things, cut yourself some slack. For mums caught up in the perfect storm of cumulative tiredness, hormonal havoc and high expectations, finding support should be a priority.
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